Do you have the hots for your best friend, and don’t know how to make them see you in a new, romantic light? This article will help you get out of the dreaded friend zone, and into a new relationship.
What is the Friend Zone?
The friend zone is an unofficial, yet well-known, fictional land of sadness and despair. The friend zone refers to the space you inhabit when you are really into someone that only thinks of you as a friend. It’s actually a very complicated notion, as sometimes you simply can’t help who you are and aren’t attracted to.
But, there are things you can do to nudge someone in a different direction, and try to help them see you in a sensual manner.
Sometimes, you end up in the friend zone accidentally, simply because the crush in question isn’t aware of your feelings. There’s a chance they might even feel the same way about you!
It’s not easy to tell someone when you have feelings for them. If you aren’t ready to make that brave step, try these suggestions to help get you out of the friend zone and into the fun zone.
Self-Acceptance and Self-Care
The first and foremost step is to take care of yourself and show yourself love. When we feel down in the dumps or bad about ourselves, it’s hard for those around us to see us at our best, for how great we are. Take healthy steps and find positive mantras to maintain balance and a positive attitude.
When you take care of yourself inside and out, it shows. You radiate warm, glowing energy and people want to be around you. You might be feeling sensitive or hurt right now because you are lovelorn, but being a bummer around your crush won’t help anything.
Exude confidence and positivity as a first step toward winning them over.
I Got a New Attitude
Change it up, get out of that rut of the same old habits and behaviors. Unleash your flirtatious, feisty side around your BFF. Instead of asking them to hang at the coffee shop, see if they want to grab dinner. Show them what a great couple the two of you could be.
Don’t be bashful. There’s nothing attractive about someone having a crush on you and never having the guts to do anything about it; in fact it can be downright uncomfortable. The fact is, most people are pretty darned intuitive. You can sense when someone is longing after you, pining for you. And when it’s unwarranted, or it’s never addressed, it makes it hard to casually hang out.
It’s much better to go for it and risk getting shot down, than to spend your time making both of you feel tense and awkward.
Be Bold, Be Brave
Along the same lines, give up this passive, submissive behavior. Most people are attracted to independent folks who know what they want out of life, not doormats who do whatever they can to please people, even if it’s people they’re crushing on.
In addition, being overly helpful is actually a measure of controlling people, albeit in a more benevolent manner than other’s. Constantly trying to do everything for someone, or trying to help with every little thing, can actually get annoying.
Be helpful when they ask, but back off when they don’t.
Stop Being Afraid
Fear will get you nowhere in this situation. Boldness and bravery are much more likely to get you what you want out of life than a timid attitude. If you’re afraid to make a move, you’ll likely never get anywhere. Fear can be crippling, it’s that destructive.
Many people will cop out with the excuse that they wouldn’t want to ruin the friendship. The truth is, however, harboring this secret will likely ruin the friendship in the long run, anyhow. If you never fess up, they will eventually being dating someone, and you’ll be left dealing with that jealousy and regret for never having stepped up to the plate.
Eventually, you’re going to have to face your fears, and let them know how you feel.
Get Your Own Thing Going On
Spend some time with new friends or old acquaintances you haven’t seen in a while. Put yourself out there and have a good time away from this situation.
You may end up getting a reaction out of them once they realize how much they miss you, or you might even end up meeting someone else who is more well-suited for you.
You might even find that you had a “proximity infatuation,” crushing on them simply because you spent so much time together. It’s worth a shot to see what life is like without them around so much.
Lay it All Out There
If you can’t take it anymore, and you feel confident and ready, let them know how you feel. Ask them out to dinner or for a drink, and put yourself out there once and for all.
Sure there’s a chance that you might face rejection. But you also might get everything you’ve wanted and more. And, if they do gently let you down, at least you can finally put this obsession to rest.
What have you really got to lose?
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