Did you know that you could seduce someone over text? Flirting over the phone is one of the most common ways that people communicate with those they find attractive. These tips and tricks will have any girl fall for you over the phone.
Imagine this. You’re out in the park, taking a nice stroll, when you look over a see a pretty girl. You decide to approach her and strike a conversation; to your delight, you feel a connection! You want to see her again so you take a leap of faith and ask for her number, which she agrees to give you. On the inside, you do backflips, but on the outside remain cool and collected as you exchange contact information. But what do you do now? Sure, you have her number, but what do you say?
It can be hard to flirt with someone and seduce them in person, but luckily for us today, we have phones. Texting and chatting over the phone is an integral tool in 21st century dating. If you meet a girl that you’d like to seduce, it could be impossible without a phone to message her! Even sending just one text to a girl you like can make her feel extremely important and appreciated! Want to know more tips? Here are some tricks to successfully seduce a girl via text:
STEP 1: SAY HELLO
It would be impossible to seduce a woman if you can’t even get her attention. Before she could even consider talking to you she’d likely need to notice you first. If the girl you want to seduce is particularly attractive, she may be so used to getting attention from guys that it doesn’t even phase her anymore. That’s why you’ll need to work extra hard. Make yourself stand out from the other guys chasing after her; be authentic. She likely has other men texting her, so you need to make her notice you above the rest.
Keep it safe
So you have her number. Now what do you do? It’s best to play it safe when you first get her number to avoid making her feel uncomfortable. The first message you send should be related to a conversation that you had in person. This way, you won’t need to force a connection- you can just make her remember the connection you shared earlier. Don’t overthink your message. An elaborate message is sure to turn her off, so just keep it simple. Be sure to always include a question in your first few texts that necessitate a response because otherwise the conversation could die out.
Be personal
The best way to build a solid foundation with a girl is to make the conversations personal. If you know something personal about her life, ask about it. If you don’t, then ask her some personal questions so you can start building a real bond. By digging deep early on, but in a casual way, you can help strengthen your connection without being written off as creepy.
STEP 2: KEEP IT SHORT AND SWEET
If you send a long, mushy, romantic love letter to a girl that you just met, she’s going to turn around and run away faster than you can explain yourself. We live in a time where handwritten professions of our feelings are seen as outdated and even creepy. Instead, you should use short and sweet text messages to hold a conversation with the girl you want to seduce. Your messages should be succinct, but interesting. If you send long or boring messages, she’ll likely ignore you altogether. Even worse- if your messages sound desperate or clingy, she might even become uncomfortable even talking to you in person
When you message the girl you’d like to seduce, focus on saying interesting things rather than overwhelming her with information. Short texts help a conversation to flow. Conversations that flow go back and forth and are open and light in nature can continue for much longer. The purpose of texting in this way is to make sure she’s constantly thinking about you and your conversation. She’ll lose interest quickly if you send long texts that require even longer responses.
After the two of you have been talking for a while, try to adapt her texting behaviors. If she types short responses, you type short responses. If she asks you a personal question, you ask her a personal question. This will make her feel more comfortable and as though your texting style is familiar and relatable. It’s also key to make sure that there are no spelling, grammar or punctuation mistakes when messaging the girl you’d like to seduce.
STEP 3: FOCUS ON YOUR GOALS
It can be easy to get so caught up in texting the girl of your dreams that you forget what your goals are. If all you do with this girl is text the same basic things, your involvement will go nowhere! If your goal is to seduce her, then you need to hang out in person to move towards dating. While texting is a wonderful tool in our current dating climate, remember than spending time with someone in person is much more meaningful than texting with them all day. Don’t waste your time or hers- ask to hang out with her as soon as you’re comfortable. A real relationship is the purpose of this entire operation.
Urge a response
When you message the girl you’d like to seduce, make sure to ask open-ended questions so she will be compelled to respond. Ask her opinion on something currently happening in the world or ask whether she’s been to a cafe you like. It’s important that you never let the conversation die out and that you always leave her room to respond to your messages. She might even surprise you by asking you a question herself!
STEP 4: MAKE HER LAUGH
The way to a girl’s heart is truly through laughter. One of the most popular qualities that women look for in men is a good sense of humor. If you can make your dream girl laugh, then you can also make her fall for you. There are several different ways to make a girl laugh, including teasing, flirting and cracking jokes.
Tease
Playful teasing is a fun way to get any girl to crack a smile. However, make sure that you never take the teasing too far. Keep things light and fun! When texting, tease her about something funny that happened to her and she’s likely to burst out laughing. When using humor, start off lightly to test the waters and gauge what her sense of humor is like. Then you can move on to playful banter and eventually flirting.
Flirt
There’s nothing more irresistible to a woman than a man who isn’t afraid to flirt. There is a very careful science to flirting, however. Never cross the line to being inappropriate or vulgar, but make sure she knows that you’re interested in seducing her. Light flirting is always best when you’re first getting to know someone. Making slightly sexual comments, such as how you just got out of a shower or are trying on some new and attractive clothes, is a great way to initiate some naughty banter. However, be sure to cut through the sexual nature with some humor to keep things light and fun. Be very attentive to her response and pay careful attention to her tone. If she is playful back, it means that she’s interested and you can work with that. However, don’t make every conversation you have with her about flirting. Intersperse the naughty dialogue with some genuine conversation and humor.
Show her your personality
Sometimes it can be hard to get your real personality to show through correctly through text. Without facial expressions and hand gestures, the meaning of your message can get lost in translation. But that’s why they created emoticons! Use emoticons sparingly and strategically so ensure that your playful personality shines through. If you use emoticons too often, they will become meaningless and even annoying. You can break up the emoticons with some fun abbreviations like LOL or BRB, but avoid overusing these, as well.
STEP 5: PICK THE RIGHT TIME
Now that you understand how to seduce a girl over text, it’s important to answer the other looming question: “When is the best time to text her?” Even if your messages are perfectly crafted, poor timing can render even the best text messages meaningless.
With every girl, the answer to this second question varies. You’ll need to do some research. Determine the amount of time it takes her to respond to your text and the time of day when she responds the fastest. While this may seem like some sneaky detective work, it’s one of the best tips if you want to seduce a girl via text. If she usually responds to your texts within an hour, respond to hers anywhere between 45 minutes and 1 hour and 15 minutes.
Don’t spam her
Sending multiple texts at once is the quickest way to get blocked in her phone. Just imagine how overwhelmed and annoyed you would be if someone sent you even 5+ text messages in a row! It could even come off as borderline creepy. Use the 1:1 ratio rule when trying to seduce a girl via text. Only respond to her as often as she messages you and vice versa.
Timing is key
It’s crucial that you avoid texting or calling the girl of your dreams when you know she’ll be busy. If she works from 9am-5pm, then don’t call her during those hours! Your efforts will be ineffective and wasted. You not only want to communicate with her, but you want her to be focused and invested when she’s messaging you. If she’s busy, she won’t be able to do this.
Message in the evening
For most people, evenings are the times when they are the least busy. The girl you want to seduce may be a student or have a full-time job which means that she’s busy and distracted during the day. However, while this is the case for most people, it doesn’t apply to everyone. Find the time of day when the girl you like prefers to text and message her in that time period.
Be patient
While it can be frustrating and even nerve wracking to wait for a response to a message, always be patient. If you send her multiple messages before she has gotten the chance to reply to your first message, she will likely be irritated. It’s important that she gets the impression that you like and want her, but not that you need her. You will only look desperate and clingy if her phone is constantly blowing up with messages from you.
After you fully understand these steps to successfully seducing a girl, feel free to give it a try! However, keep in mind that you won’t succeed every time. Seducing girls is all about practice, authenticity and honesty. Don’t let a few bad experiences ruin your hopes of every seducing a girl over text. Take these tips and implement them the next time you want to flirt with a girl over text and you’re likely to get the girl!
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