If there’s a special lady in your life that you would like to turn into your girlfriend, then this post is for you. These tips can help you find the most romantic ways to turn her from friend into girlfriend.
Asking a girl to be your girlfriend for the first time can be a completely nerve wracking experience. And that’s completely normal! You’re likely to feel sweaty, lightheaded and even nauseous when you think about having the talk to make your relationship official. The best way to avoid becoming overwhelmed is to think about the situation in steps. By breaking it down, you’ll be able to see each piece of the puzzle and it won’t seem so scary anymore. It’s important to remember not to rush things. If you have a friend that you would like to date, start by getting to know her as a friend first, then go on a date (or a few!) and only after this should you ask her to be official. But let’s break it all down into steps first.
GET TO KNOW HER
You may have strong feelings for your friend already, but it’s crucial that you get to know her before asking her to be your girlfriend or- even worse- blurting out that you love her! She will only take you seriously if you approach the situation in the right way. Before making any romantic moves, get to know her, as you would with any friend. While the friendship is developing, you can implement some subtle flirting tactics to give her the right impression of your motives. The most important part of this step is making the friendship a close and intimate one. The girl you have a crush on should feel comfortable speaking to you and should do so often. However, she shouldn’t feel comfortable talking to you about everything because that will mean you’re in the friendzone. It’s a very delicate balance, but you can find it if you try hard enough. Here are a few tips for getting to know her without appearing creepy or suspicious:
BECOME ACQUAINTED
When you become acquainted with someone, it means that you know who they are, but not well. Essentially, you’ve seen or heard of them and aren’t a complete stranger, but you wouldn’t call them a friend. The girl you have a crush on should be able to not only recognize your face, but know your name and a bit about you. This is easier to do than you might think! If you have a crush on her, then you’ve obviously crossed paths with her before. Where was it? In a class? In the library? At a supermarket? Wherever it is that you see her regularly, strike up a conversation. Once greeting her becomes a normal part of your routine, you can move on towards a more solid friendship.
When she becomes familiar with you, she’ll start to get more comfortable around you. This could take anywhere from one conversation to multiple; it simply depends on the girl. However, don’t wait too long before properly introducing yourself of you could miss your chance! Be casual, appear confident and all will go well.
STRIKE UP A REAL CONVERSATION
After the two of you have seen and greeted each other enough, it’s time for you to have a proper conversation. The next time you see her, offer to exchange numbers. This is a crucial step because it’s the gateway into being able to communicate with her more frequently. You’ll no longer need to wait around hoping to see her in person in order to have a conversation! When you have her personal details- whether it’s a phone number or social media profile- send her a basic message. It’s best to do this the same day that she gave you her details. The message doesn’t need to be anything elaborate- just remind her of your name and who you are. Then, start to chat with her regularly. By speaking with her both in person when you see her and over the phone, you can be in constant communication. The more you two speak, the more comfortable she’ll become around you. But be sure to remember to throw in some flirty moves so she doesn’t think that you want to be in the friendzone.
SPEND TIME WITH HER
After the two of you have spent some time getting to know each other by chatting, you should take it to the next level and spend some time with her. If you want to ease into hanging out, then invite her to a group activity! The first time the two of you spend time together shouldn’t be in a tense, high-pressure date setting, anyways. However, if you are in a group setting when you hang out, make sure to be especially attentive to her. This will help her realize that you care about her and possibly even like her more than friends.
This will also get attention from your friends, which means that it won’t come as a surprise to anyone if you two start dating. After you have hung out in group settings, ask her to hang out privately. You could do so in a casual way, by claiming you have an extra ticket to a fun event or simply don’t want to go along.
FIND A LOCATION TO DROP THE QUESTION
If you are going to ask a girl to be your girlfriend, there are a few ground rules to follow. The first is to ensure that the two of you are completely alone. This isn’t like a marriage proposal- having other people around for a dating proposal could be awkward and uncomfortable. Make sure to be intentional about the alone time. Let her know that you’d like to speak with her privately after work or school; this way she’ll be wondering all day about what you want to talk to her about. Location is also important. Choose a neutral location in a public place to propose a dating relationship.
HOW TO ASK HER OUT
This girl will likely agree to meet with you and when she does, it’s time to put your plan into action. Start off slow by having a normal conversation. Not only is it best to ease into this conversation, but doing so will also help calm your nerves. Then, try to make her laugh so she opens up a bit more and will be receptive to your question.
While she’s still laughing, make your move. Mention how the two of you have been good friends for a while and point out how well you get along and how much you enjoy her company. By making her feel appreciated and valued, she’ll get an idea for where you’re going with the conversation. Next, confess your feelings- but in a casual way, rather than a mushy way. Mention that you’d like to be “more than friends” and ask her out on a proper date.
She will likely take a moment to contemplate your proposition, so don’t panic. Chances are, she’ll say yes and when she does, take the news calmly and professionally. While you may be jumping with joy on the inside, keep it on the inside. However, show her that you’re truly happy with her response and that you were quite anxious to ask her.
FROM CASUAL DATING TO OFFICIAL RELATIONSHIP
It’s important to date casually for a bit before having a conversation about becoming official. While you’re dating, it’s likely that you’ll both develop strong feelings for one another. You may want to tell her that you love her, but that can be even scarier than asking her out in the first place. If you decide that she is the right one for you and that your feelings are genuine, then it’s time to make a plan to let her know. Here are a few steps to follow:
CONSTRUCT A PLAN
You only get one chance to make things official with this girl- only one conversation. Make it count. The way that you ask her to be your girlfriend should be well-planned, properly executed and, most important of all, romantic. You should pop the question in a relaxing, but invigorating environment. The best place would likely be somewhere that the two of you have been together before, like the location of your first official date. Be sure to plan everything down to the last detail to avoid any embarrassing snafus.
SHOW YOUR APPRECIATION
Before you ask her to be your girlfriend, it’s important that you show her how much you care about her. This won’t ruin the surprise because, since the two of you have been dating for a bit, some flowers or a nice card wouldn’t be out of the ordinary. To make the night even more memorable, bring her a combination of personal gifts, like a bouquet of her favorite flowers accompanied by her favorite chocolates and a handwritten romantic note. This will properly set the mood for the big question.
The most important part of this token of appreciation is to refrain from giving her these gifts until the date has finished. Then she’ll truly be surprised and you can segue nicely into the main reason you asked her out on this particular night.
TELL HER YOU HOW YOU FEEL
After you have given her your gift as a token of appreciation and she has experienced your thoughtful date, it’s time to say the magic words. Without saying “I love you”- or even “I like you”- asking a girl to be official wouldn’t seem authentic. If you want someone to be your girlfriend, it should be because you have strong, overwhelming feelings for her. This should be communicated to her properly and there’s only one way to do that- by telling her how you feel about her.
After you say that magic words, give her a few moments to gather her thoughts and formulate a response. She may be in shock or extremely happy. No matter what her response is, take it with grace and dignity. If she says that she feels the same way with you, you’ll likely be bursting with joy, but keep yourself contained. However, if she says that she doesn’t want to be official with you, respond in the same way. Cursing, begging or storming off are all common, but incredibly inappropriate responses to a girl saying that she doesn’t like you in the same way. While you will understandably feel crushed, still be kind and appropriate with your response.
If you have someone in your life that you think you would be compatible with romantically, you should go for it! However, keep in mind that the journey from asking someone on a date to becoming their boyfriend can be difficult. It’s a huge step and it will require both dedication and commitment. Before even asking this girl you have in mind on a date, make sure that it’s something you truly want to do. You should ask her out because you think that she’s a good match for you in the long run, not because you want an easy hookup. Do it for the right reasons. If you are sure about your feelings for her, don’t overthink anything! Trust your gut. Make every decision carefully and with intent, but don’t obsess about any of these steps. They are simply here to guide you in making this big step. If you are open, honest and prepared, you will be okay no matter the outcome.
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