This post is based on what the lord has warned us about in Matthew 26:41.
“Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”
See how powerful and true his words are. The number 1 reason we fall prey for sin, is because, our flesh is weak. Be it a diet change, or getting rid of evil addictions, or trying not to sin against the lord. Our spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.
There are 3 types of husbands:
- True lover: He loves you and fears the lord, and will never even think about lusting after another woman.
- Mr 50/50: He loves you truly and all that, but his faithfulness and sincerity all depends on what you put in.
- Weak flesh: He loves you, but, not truly enough to resist lustful temptations.
I would like to humbly say that, by the lord’s mighty grace, my husband fits in the first category. But does that mean the advice on this post is not for me? Noway!
No matter what category your husband fits in, if you’re serious about making sure this man learns to love you truly and would never ever cheat on you, do these things below:
NO 1: Pray without ceasing. (1 Thessalonians 5: 16-18).
If you’re not already doing this, it’s about time my friend! Nothing you do will give you a permanent fix unless you learn to bring it to the lord on a daily basis. Pray for your husband, children, your family, every single day.
What do you do when you first open your eyes in the morning? Kneel down sister, because trust me, you don’t know what the devil has in store for you for that day.
Ever read the chapter of king David and Bathsheba?
God loved David so much that he called him, a man after his own heart (Acts 13:22). But even David decided to sin against the lord by sleeping with another man’s wife, Bathsheba.
He also got her husband killed so he could make her his own wife. This sinful act, he committed on an evening after waking up from bed and roaming around the roof of his palace.
David always prays to the lord, had he prayed that evening as soon as he got up from bed, without a single doubt, the lord almighty would have stopped him from doing such an evil thing.
So if that’s what happened to someone like David, what can we say about your husband, or mine?
That’s why sister, it’s important to kneel down and pray every morning and night. When you pray and seek the lord’s will, he will protect your husband from sinning.
NO 2: The only times it’s okay for you to abstain from love making should be:
- When you’re sick or in some kind of physical pain.
- Death of someone you love.
- Mutually agreed hours of fasting/worshipping.
Other than the above reasons, absolutely nothing should stop you from doing it. Because you know why my love?
“The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband (1 Corinthians 7:4).”
So think twice the next time you refuse physical intimacy with your husband for any other reasons, than what’s listed above.
Focus on learning what your husband likes/dislikes and spice things up in the bedroom department.
Striving to fulfil his bedroom desires, also plays a huge part in being a good submissive wife. Remember that.
NO 3: You don’t want to be a Proverbs 21:19 wife!
“Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.”
I used to do that a lot, but now by the lord’s grace, I’m really striving to get rid of that evil habit. Men hate it when women start an argument over every little thing.
And it’s kind of true when I look back at some of our fights and the pointless reasons behind them.
Like one time, I was behaving like a psycho with my husband about him having an Instagram account without me knowing.
He was like, wow, what’s the big deal. If you had told me this in a sweet manner, I would have deleted it right away because it’s nothing. And so he did.
Lesson learned. When I speak to him in a kind manner, even when I’m angry, it makes him want to do what pleases me.
NO 4: And some men say, they cheat because the *other woman* is:
- Easy to talk to
- Ready for it
So they say. Even though it’s not justifiable, do your part in making sure the devil has no open holes to trap your husband into evil temptations.
A recent survey stats shows the second most popular reason for why men think it’s okay to cheat, is because of lack of respect and love from their wives.
Speaking of which, you might want to read how to keep your husband tied around your pinky finger.
Even though cheating is, what it is, no matter what, some men will still find their excuses.
NO 5: If your husband is already in the trap:
Simple. The above post is all you need to read right now if your husband has already fallen for temptations.
Tell me, what are you doing as a Christian, or good wife in general, to make sure your husband never cheats?